Mom Blogger Says 'Helicopter Parents' Need to Stop Rescuing Their Kids
Do you follow the "no rescue" strategy when it comes to parenting or are you what has been called a "helicopter" mom or dad?
Here's how one "mom blogger" explained the former:
These "I forgot" extra school runs were making me frustrated and annoyed on a daily basis. And they weren’t teaching my kids not to forget their things. So I sat my fifth and fourth grader down before school started this year, and told them simply: I quit.
I quit the micro-job of being The Fixer: the one who solved all problems. From now on, I told them, if they left something at school in the afternoon, I wasn’t going to bring them back to school to get it. And if they left something at home in the morning, I wasn’t going to bring it to them.
Jordana Horn, a mother of five, sat down with Ainsley Earhardt to elaborate (video above), explaining that she's trying to instill responsibility and accountability in her kids.
She feels that if a parent refuses to rescue their child - for instance, by bringing their forgotten musical instrument to school for them - the child will be less likely to make the mistake again.
"There was a year of every single week, going back to school for something. ... It wasn't really good for anybody," said Horn, adding that so far, the strategy is working for her family.
Ainsley pointed out that the "helicopter mom" - which refers to constantly hovering over your children - seems to be more prevalent nowadays.
Horn agreed, saying that it seems like parents are afraid of disappointing their kids or making them unhappy. She also described "snow plow" parents as the ones who want to always "clear a path" in advance and eliminate any potential obstacles.
Horn argues that kids need to learn how to deal with problems without their parents' help every time.
Anna Kooiman discussed some of these parenting philosophies with Elycia Rubin, a mother and author of "No Biggy!"
She said there is no "right" strategy. It all depends on your child's personality and needs.
"Kids have to learn on their own by failing," said Rubin, explaining that children must be taught consequences and to learn from mistakes.
Watch the interview below and give us your take on the subject.